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Be Kind | A to Z Challenge

Today I was going to write about branding because I think it is important to help you stand out in the crowd, but something else came to me that I wanted to write about.

This is a little more about my story so it’s probably a good extension of my last post, About Me. There I mentioned that I’m not just a mom, but a special needs mom. My son has ADHD/ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder), along with expressive language disorder and newly discovered hearing loss (yay!).  His symptoms are more mild than some, but his behavior leaves a lot to be desired at times.

This is still pretty new for us so we are still trying to figure out what is best for him. I still worry what other people think when they see us in public when he’s having an outburst. “He’s too old to act like that.” “He’s probably spoiled.” The worst of all, “He needs a good smack on the rear.” I promise he’s not spoiled. We are doing our best. So my message today is pretty universal. You never know what someone is going through so please…

BE KIND!

Today was a particularly rough morning and for some reason I felt like writing about it. I came up with this poem to put down what he goes through. The phrase, “hurt my heart” is something he says when something scares him or it gets too loud. 

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We could all benefit from a little kindness, don’t you think?

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About Me | A to Z Challenge

Blogging has been something I’ve been wanting to do for a while now. I don’t get a chance to get my thoughts out very often so I thought this would be a great way to say what I’m feeling for any one who cares. So I decided to do a blogging challenge. For the month of April I will blog about a topic from A to Z. I am a mom running a direct sales business so things will revolve around business and kids.

In true TinkeringKate form, here I am at 10:40pm trying to type up my first post for the month. Here we go…

I am a wife, mother of 2 children ages 5 and 2, IP paralegal AND I attempt to run not one, but TWO direct sales businesses. People wonder how I do it all. I’ll let you in on a little secret. I Don’t! There is always something that is NOT getting done. Most things are done last minute as evidenced by my last-stitch effort to post this before midnight. Week days are spent ushering the kids off to school in the morning and trying to guess how late I will be for work. I had everything timed perfectly. I even had my son’s bus stop moved so it was more convenient, then they changed the trolley schedule. So I have decided that I will NEVER get to work on time. My employers seem okay with this. I’ve been there almost 15 years. They know I’m good for it.

The evening is even more fun. It is a whirlwind of trolley troubles, what’s for dinner, who’s going to eat said dinner, homework, bath and bed. Let’s get real though. My kids are lucky to get a bath twice a week. We wouldn’t want their skin to get dried out. 😉

So why on Earth why would I join 2 direct sales businesses when I barely have time as it is. This is why…

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I never wanted to be a working mom. There I said it. I want to be the mom greeting her kids at the bus stop in yoga pants, not running through the terminal to catch the train so I can make the 6pm pick up time. I started my first business to make a little extra money to help towards bills because let’s face it, after daycare I don’t have much left over anyway. Another company came along and I decided to give it a shot. It was newer, but completely different from my first. Well I found I was making more money with the second biz so that took over really.

Fast forward 3 years and I am still working full time and still working my businesses. Well, maybe just the one business. I teeter on going inactive with the first, but I just don’t want to give it up. Something always pulls me back in. In those three years, my son has started school and received an ADHD/ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) diagnosis. So now I’m not just a mom, but a special needs mom. That just adds a crap load of challenges and responsibilities that we didn’t have before.  My kids, particularly my son, need me now more than ever so it is time I get myself together.

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I love this quote. Even more so because it’s used in the new movie Moana. 🙂 I see the mistakes I’ve made in the past and I need to learn from them if I am going to move forward.

Keep in touch to see how I do. If you’re a busy mom (or non-mom), come join my FREE Facebook group to share ideas to help you with your busy life.

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How to be more productive

So I just did something that I knew I was going to do for a couple weeks now, but actually doing it brought on more emotions than I expected. I almost want to cry, but I know it is for the best. I removed myself from the wait list of a brand new company. A BRAND NEW company with no representatives anywhere! Think of all the potential! Just imagine being one of the first Mary Kay or Avon reps. At least that’s what I told myself when I signed up for the pre-enrollment.

Let’s get real. Nothing is easy. Nothing sells itself. Don’t let anyone fool you. You still have to put yourself out there and advertise yourself and your products. All that takes time and that is a commodity I am running low on. I already have a direct sales business, no make that 2 direct sales businesses. I have invested 3 years into each of these businesses and I am fairly successful. If I worked the business like a full time job, I know I could be much more successful. However, my real full time job, 2 kids (one of which has special needs), house and hubby (because I kind of need to spend time with him too) take up pretty much all of my time. I have yet to find the magic formula to make it all work. If only I didn’t need sleep. :-/

For the sake of my sanity, I cut my to do list. We tend to feel like we need to do it all. In the process we can spread ourselves too thin. The “village” mentality is fading fast and the “Super WoMOM” is taking over. Asking for help or taking a step back is NOT a sign of weakness. It is a sign that you are in tune with yourself and you know your limitations.

So my best advice for being productive is to CUT YOUR TO DO LIST. Focus on what really matters. Can mundane tasks be outsourced to a high school student or someone looking to make a little extra money. I often have my kids help label catalogs. Are they perfect? No, but it’s done and it’s something we did together. It can also be a great conversation starter with someone. 🙂

Find one thing you love to do and focus all your effort there. Stop chasing the next big thing. Best of luck with that. I’m still working on finding my ONE great thing, but I think I’m getting closer. 🙂

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